
With kids this age the games are all about the breakaways, the big rush up the ice. There are several in every game. Sometimes I feel like the whole game is one breakaway after another.
Breakaways are arguably the most exciting moments in a hockey game. And the kids know it. Yup, even the kids at 4 or 5 years old don't take long to learn that this is the time for them to be hootin' n hollerin'. They bang their sticks and kick their skates against the boards. They can make quite the racket. What a blast!! These moments are like rocket fuel for a childs motivation, and that's fantastic!
But sometimes, if the breakaway happens in the far zone, that sure can be a lot of ice to cover without falling while maintaing puck control. The ice is 200 feet long and it doesn't matter sometimes if no one is in their way, that's a big skate for such a young player. Fun, but stressful too, for the player and the parents alike.
For the child that made the breakaway and scored the goal, he/she doesn't need much of a pep talk, they've received plenty of immediate positive feedback therefore they're having a great day. But what of the kid that falls, over-skates the puck, or just panics? How about the kid that caused the breakaway, or the kid that couldn't catch the player? How can we use these moments to help motivate a kid? Sometimes they arrive at the bench in tears.
Personally, I found these moments difficult. But after some research, and trial & error I learned they're are lot of things you can do. First of all, acknowledge them, be empathetic. You know in reality it means very little, but to them it's a very big deal. Let them know that you are proud of their effort. Praise their effort, how hard they skated, not the result. Let them know the effort was what was important. They tried their best. Also, I've learned it is very important to not focus on the mistake too long.
I've learned that a physical motion to rid yourself, the player & the team of the mistake works best. I'd like to give credit to the right person here, but I don't remember where I picked it up. All I can say is that it works well. Once the kid comes to the bench, you just make a flush motion. I like the idea of pretending you flushed the mistake down the toilet. The kids catch onto it quick, and start laughing it up. I feel it's a great way for the kids to move beyond the mistake and also shows them it's okay to make mistakes. This way, hopefully, they learn it's okay to make a mistake and keep trying their best. The last thing you want are kids that are afraid to try something because they may not do it properly or it may not work out how they want. I feel this simple flushing of mistakes helps the kids maintain their growth mindset. The mindset that allows them to take on new challenges.
I hope this helps you with the kids you coach.
Coach Chris